Dealing with disappointments

So we all have disappointments in life, that's life.  Yes.  I accept that we are supposed to grow and learn and have experiences, but it doesn't make it fun or easy.  I get disappointed and wonder how I could've been better or made things turn out differently.  So, I think I need a list.. a list of what to do when I'm disappointed.  First of all, my family is the best.  I rarely am disappointed in them.  Each of my family members are individuals with goals and dreams of their own and that's good.  I am in no way wanting to manipulate or persuade any of my family members to do anything except follow their own righteous desires and dreams that are good for their lives.  I'm not really 'aiming' this post towards anyone.. I feel like I've been disappointed a few times in my life though and need reminded of what to DO when I feel like this.
1) Be Grateful.  I have been given so much.  Count my blessings, look at the good, focus on the positive and smile.  Even if it takes writing notes to myself to remind me of my blessings then I need to do that.  I keep a journal, a gratitude journal, and I try to write in it frequently.  It's about due for another entry!
2) Serve.  When I focus on others needs, my own needs become less important.  Serving gives me a sense of taking care of someone else and that feels great!  When I put others needs before my own, my own disappointments and problems seem insignificant, or at least lessened.
3) Smile.  Says it all.  I remind myself to smile often.  I look better when I smile!
4) Listen to uplifting music or talks. Putting positive 'things' in my mind fills it with good, happy thoughts and messages instead of the disappointments I may be feeling.  Play a video that is happy and listen to light, happy and inspiring music.

5) Focus on my talents.  Work on a project.  I love to create and make things newer and more lovely.  When I work on a hobby or talent, I feel great and accomplished and my disappointments are pushed away to the background and my talents and hobbies, things I love to do, are pushed to the forefront!  When I play the piano, I always am uplifted and in a better mood.  Singing makes me smile and be happy too.  A song is like a prayer of the heart spoken up to heaven.  Uplifting to my soul.
6) Give.   When I give of my time, talents, energy and love I feel good inside and it shows on the outside as well.  
7) Work.  Work hard and smart.  Get things done.  When I get things organized and manageable, I feel accomplished instead of disappointed.  Work my plan, set goals and plan to work.
8) Talk with a close family member.  When I talk to one of my kids on facetime or on the phone, I always feel better and do not focus on any of the disappointing things that may have happened that day.  I love my family and I have many family members to talk to.  I feel their love when we talk and share our day and lives with each other.
9) Read scriptures or good, uplifting inspirational books.  I can learn from the experiences of others when I read books that have stories of triumph and victory.  In good books I can find victory for good, triumph in overcoming obstacles to live a better life.  Reading books and listening to audio books helps me to learn how to deal with disappointments with dignity.
10) Love others for who they are.  I should never want to take away anyone's choice and force them to see things my way.  Everyone has the right to choose the way they want to live and it is my 'job' in life to not want to or have the desire to force others to see everything my way.  Love others no matter what they decide to do in their life.  This does not mean I should hang out with or spend time with people who are not on the same path as I am on as far as my goals are concerned, but that I can and should love others no matter what choices they make.  We can find common ground and enjoy our differences, or move on and make friends who are like minded and help us to grow and reach our goals.
11) Spend time with my husband.  My husband is the love of my life.  I look up to him, admire him, respect him and cherish our time together.  I always enjoy his company.  We have a good marriage and have raised 5 wonderful kids who we have a good relationship with as they are growing into adults.  I love to take walks, watch movies, go on drives, work side by side, and do lots of things with my husband.  He helps me feel happy and loved.  We are companions and I am so blessed to have him and he is blessed to have me.
12) Remember that Jesus Christ loves me and I am of great worth.  I am a daughter of God, a woman with a divine destiny and I strive to fulfill that calling of daughter, sister, wife, and mother to the best of my ability.  I cannot do anything alone.  I need my Heavenly Father and His love and guidance.  I know that God sent His Son Jesus Christ to this earth to be an example, to live and to give His life for all of mankind, for me.  He paid for all of my sins and took upon himself my heartaches and worries.  I must trust that God has a plan for me and that through His Son I can be made perfect someday and join with them and my family in an Eternal Life, if I strive to live according to His laws and love.


I have a lovely life, but I do experience disappointments now and then.  It is a human experience and I'm learning to deal and grow and move on.  I should never expect to never be disappointed in my life.  I am one, only one, woman, but I am one and I can be a positive influence for good to those who love me and want to be with me.

10 Lessons learned from a Navy Seal Admiral

Herbalife Success Training Seminar and what a great training!  I love what I get to do and be exposed to for my business and for my life.  Positive, like minded people who are helping others, like I am, with their health and teaching the Herbalife business opportunity to others.  We CAN control our lives and our opportunities.  We CAN work hard, work smart and teach to teach.  I was a presenter and spoke about how to "Package Your Story" to help us members get the most out of our conversations with friends, family and anyone within 10 feet of us anywhere.  Felt great and I am less and less nervous each time I do a presentation.  

We listened to a video at the end of the training that I'd like to share the highlights from.  This was a speech from Admiral William McRaven at a University commencement speech.    He said that if we change just 10 people for the better, and they change 10 others, and they change 10 others, it duplicates and duplicates and one person could really change the world!  10 Lessons learned in Navy Seal Training, by Admiral William McRaven: 

1. "Make your bed every day.. it's the simple disciplines that lead to more and more disciplines that create a lifetime of great habits.  And, if you've had a bad day, at least you come home to a made bed. 
2. Synchronize your team to paddle all together - if we want to change the world, we need help from others, lots of others and to work together.   
3. We are all equal - measure a person by the size of their heart. 
4. You're just not going to have all great days - keep moving forward.  
5. If they didn't quite measure up with their performance, they had to do 2 extra hours of calisthenics.  It was hard, but it made them stronger over time.  Don't get discouraged, the struggles make you stronger.
6. Climbing the tower no one ever broke the record made.. because everyone performed at the same level, did the same things.  One person who broke the record slid down head first!  Very dangerous, but he stepped outside his comfort zone and broke the record and taught others a new way. 
7. There are sharks out there.  There are sharks that circle your position and want to take you out.  When you see the sharks you have to punch them hard in the snout and they will leave you alone.  If you want to change the world, don't back down from the sharks that want to take you out. 
8. One of the drills was to swim with scuba gear under the ship to the Keel, or the middle of the boat underwater.   When the ship shades the sunlight and streetlights, it's very dark under the water and you can get disoriented.  Be calm, composed and find your inner strength.  You must be your best in the darkest moments. 
9. They went through Hell week.  Tremendous pressure to quit.  One of the seals in one of the drills that was extremely hard started singing by himself to forget the cold and the elements to be endured for 8 more hours.  Other started singing with him.  They were all able to endure the cold together - the singing gave them hope.  One person gave them all hope and they were stronger together because of one person's hope.  Sing when you're up to your neck in mud.  
10. There was a bell in a bell tower that if any of the seals wanted to quit, they could ring the bell and it would all be over, they were done, they could quit.  Don't Ever, Ever, Ever, Ever ring the bell.  Life is not fair, you will feel often that is isn't fair.  If you never ever quit, you can change the world." 

We applied all of these steps to our lives, to our business and to our relationships.  We can change the world by helping and lifting and being a positive influence for good to others.  I love this business that teaches me to be a better person and to show others what is possible for them.  We can do and go anywhere we want in life and I'm grateful to have the Herbalife opportunity to take me where I want to go.. to help me become the business woman I want to become.  

You can do anything... if you...

I have to write.  I have to write down what's going on or I'll explode.  I don't know if anyone will read this, and that part really isn't important because writing for me is like therapy.. getting thoughts and feelings out there instead of pent up inside and me not knowing what to do with them.
I am a strong person.  I am 53 years old and I have raised 5 kids, 2 of those children came to me at one time.  I survived and thrived.  I LOVE my children and the memories I have of raising them.  I was probably more of a pushover than I should have been, but all in all, they all turned out great.  My husband helped raise our family - he was very involved with decisions and the direction our parenting went.  He knew a lot and I don't even know where he learned it from.  He is a valiant son of God, striving to keep the commandments.
But this isn't really what I want to write about today.
I think I'm going to take the 365 blog challenge.. blog every day for a YEAR!  Why?  I don't really know.. because I want to see if I can set a huge goal and accomplish it.  I have done many things in my life and I find myself now wanting to improve and learn and stretch myself to do more.  I want to help others, be a positive influence for good, stay close to my family, children and grandchildren and love and help my brother and sisters all I can.  I have held many responsible church callings in my life and have learned a lot about leadership and delegating and getting things done.  In fact, my activity in my church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Later-Day Saints has helped me become more than I would be if I wasn't active or attending.   My religion and what I believe is a whole nother blog post though,
I was thinkking while I drove home this morning after taking my 24 year old son to his workplace (my car is in the shop and that's a whole nother blog post!) and I thought of that famous saying "You can do anything if you put your mind to it".  I do not know who to credit that quote to, but I was thinking about it and when I heard it as a teen, I thought that if you 'thought' hard enough, you could accomplish your goals, do anything you wanted to do.  Well, that doesn't work.  You can't just think hard about something and accomplish a goal, any goal.  What I've learned over the past few years, is that when you want something bad enough and you change your thinking and believe that anything is possible, with the right kind of work behind it, you CAN do anything.  But it takes work!  It takes a process.  It takes learning what works for you and then doing that process and not just setting a goal and sitting there thinking hard about it and hoping it will come to pass.  Often we cannot change circumstances around us.  We can't change the weather. We can't change the 'economy'.  We can't change other people's choices.  We can't change people to do what we think they should do. We can't control actions of others that affect our lives.  What we CAN do is change the way we look at our circumstances.  We can change the way we think, feel, and act.  We can choose to have a good attitude.  We can choose to work hard on ourselves to improve so we can reach our goals for ourselves.  We can become the best person we can be, with hard work and good ethics.

You can do anything if you put your mind to it is true... but it takes action..  Your mind comes up with an action plan and you work that plan over and over and over again until you see the results you want.  If you don't like the results you are getting, make adjustments, look at yourself and work on being your best.  These are all directed towards ME by the way.  Replace the 'we' with 'I' and it's all for me.  I need to change and work and grow for my dreams and vision and goals to come to pass.  
I have a goal to get up earlier in the morning and listen to uplifting personal development talks or read good books for 15 minutes every morning.   I know this will start my day on a positive note and get me off thinking the right way about me, my life, my circumstances, and my relationships.
So, I am declaring that I'm getting out of bed, that's out of bed and not looking at facebook on my phone, which is what usually happens for about 20 minutes before I get out of bed, at exactly 6:30am from now on.  I'm doing it.  I've written it so I'm doing it.    I'll do Personal Development for 15 minutes and after I've mastered this new habit, I'll add another activity to my morning routine, and so on for my day.  I need to develop structure and good habits for my business, social, intellectual and spiritual growth.
Ok.. First blog of 365 started.  I'll try to post photos to go with the posts.

Be Better

What is life were 'easy'?  Do you wish things could be 'easier' for you?  Do you feel like life is 'easier' for everyone around you?  Why does it sometimes seem like others have it easier than I do?  Do they really have it easier?  Probably not.  Everyone has their own set of problems and challenges in life.  It is a journey and a process for us to experience.  When I feel like others have it better or easier than I do, I take a look around me, pause and feel gratitude for what I do have in my life.  If I want things to be easier or better for me, it is up to me to change my attitude, my outlook, my work ethic, my patience, my persistence, my passion, my focus,.  Things can be easier as I get better and better with my focus and time management.  Is it hard to do?  Sure it can be hard.  But I can decide to make a change and make it.  I shouldn't wait for a crisis or a need to be better.  I decide to be better for me and for my family and friends.  You can choose to be better at something.  Look for ways you can improve your life, your family, your surroundings and your focus.  Seek after things that uplift and bring you joy.  Delete or get rid of things that drag you down or that don't add beauty and good to your life.  You have the power if you have the courage to let go of the past and make the changes needed for yourself for today and for your future.  It really doesn't matter what happened yesterday, last week, last month or last year.  You have the power to change and be better for today, for tomorrow and for your future.  "Don't wish it were easier, wish you were better"  -Jim Rohn

I like this thought.  It speaks to me!

Fun Business.

Herbalife is the funnest business EVER!  This is us at a 20's party!  There was a full spread of food, live music and tables and lots and lots of Herbalife Distributors who qualified for this special event.  We had so much fun!  Who wouldn't want to go to a fun dress up party?  Herbalife knows how to throw the BEST parties EVER!  Join us and start your amazing journey in this business of helping others to get healthy and fit.  Earn extra $$ around what you are already doing right now.  We can get you started and plug you in to the methods that work and invite you to all the inside trainings available.  So many training opportunities, you decide where you want to go with this business.  All very exciting!  We love Herbalife and consume the products every day and love sharing the opportunity and health benefits with others.  Call me for your phone interview or email job introduction.  No better time!   775-537-4605 Coach Alaina

 

Be Your Own Boss!

This is GREAT!  Break out of the line of thinking that you have to go to school and work FOR someone ELSE!  YOU can be your own BOSS and Earn What You Are Worth!  You can bring value to the marketplace with your talents and hobbies and abilities!  I am looking for people who want to break out, work for themselves, bring value and earn the money that they put in the work for.. as you work hard and plant seeds, there will be a time of harvest!  Own your own business with Herbalife and let me help you get started.  I would NOT be your boss, I'd be your mentor and sponsor.  I am ready to show you the door to walk through to get your life back.  Do you want more time with your kids, time to travel and do the things you want to do?  Do you want to choose who you work with instead of being put into a department of co-workers you don't really care to be around all day?  Would you like to get rewarded with promotions for all the hard work you do?  Do you crave recognition for doing a great job?  Herbalife is the answer!  It is a fun, lucrative business that can build a financial wall around you and your family that no one can touch!  Are you putting your future into the hands of the stock market or in the hands of a financial planner or in the economy?  Be in charge and make the lifestyle income you dream of.  Where will you be in 5 years from now?  Same old same old, or will you start today and get the ball rolling towards your future and that ball will keep rolling and rolling and soon you won't be able to even stop it.. it'll just keep growing and building and you'll be the beneficiary of all your hard work!  Contact me today!  Email, alainamun@hotmail.com  Call me  541-404-4032  Message me on facebook  Make a profile on my site www.goherbalife.com/alaina Like my facebook page www.facebook.com/liveloveherbalife    Don't wait... you could get started on your journey and WOW, is it a journey!