Be Your Best Self: My 5 step process

How do we change and be our best self?!!  It is HARD to make changes that we know we need to make to help us progress and be happier and healthier!!  Human nature tells us we can be lazy, it doesn't matter, who cares and what difference does it make!?!  We are human and fight against all these feelings.  What if we make a small change and we recognize it though.  What if we decide to develop a talent and it becomes something we love to do and we start sharing it with others.  We've made a change that makes us happy and helps others to be happy!  That change was EASY!  That is a change that we loved doing.. it wasn't hard.  How do we make the hard changes needed to really improve and grow?  How do we make it fun and simple?

5 Steps to making changes to Be Your Best Self:
1) Be dissatisfied with where you are.
You have to be uncomfortable about what it is you want to change.  It could be your attitude, your habits, your health, your job.  Whatever it is that is so dis-satisfactory to you in your life that you are uncomfortable about it and it eats at you most of the time, then it's time to change that thing!  Being dissatisfied is the first step to change!
2) Identify your goals.
What do you want to do?  What do you want to be?  What do you want to have?  Identification is the next step to changing.  Identify what it is you WANT.  No filters.  What do you truly want to be, do and have in life?  Write it down, visualize it, make a dream board or bucket list.
3) Set the big goal..
see the end result, or at least the journey and process of becoming what and who you want to be.  First of all, we all have value and are worth more than rubies as it says in the scriptures.  God loves us for who we are and as long as we are following His plan and keeping His commandments, we are great!  But changing and improving are the things life is about.  Deciding what we want and who we can become to help others is part of this life's journey.  What could we accomplish if we try and do make the changes towards becoming better, becoming more!?  See the big picture, where do you want to be in 1, 3, 5 years from now? What will your life look like?
4) Set smaller, attainable goals that will push you towards the results you want.
There never really is an END to a goal and journey in life.  We can ALWAYS improve and learn and be and do more.  but the journey to becoming more is taken in small steps, small processes.  Set up those processes to become and get to where you want to be.  Break it down to daily tasks and routines that will propel you towards your goals.
5) Read and fill your mind with positive thoughts and articles and words and music.
You can fill your mind with all the positive energy it needs to believe that you will achieve.  Push away doubts, fears, nay sayers and depressing thoughts.  Fill your mind with good, positive and happy thoughts through your day.  

Dealing with disappointments

So we all have disappointments in life, that's life.  Yes.  I accept that we are supposed to grow and learn and have experiences, but it doesn't make it fun or easy.  I get disappointed and wonder how I could've been better or made things turn out differently.  So, I think I need a list.. a list of what to do when I'm disappointed.  First of all, my family is the best.  I rarely am disappointed in them.  Each of my family members are individuals with goals and dreams of their own and that's good.  I am in no way wanting to manipulate or persuade any of my family members to do anything except follow their own righteous desires and dreams that are good for their lives.  I'm not really 'aiming' this post towards anyone.. I feel like I've been disappointed a few times in my life though and need reminded of what to DO when I feel like this.
1) Be Grateful.  I have been given so much.  Count my blessings, look at the good, focus on the positive and smile.  Even if it takes writing notes to myself to remind me of my blessings then I need to do that.  I keep a journal, a gratitude journal, and I try to write in it frequently.  It's about due for another entry!
2) Serve.  When I focus on others needs, my own needs become less important.  Serving gives me a sense of taking care of someone else and that feels great!  When I put others needs before my own, my own disappointments and problems seem insignificant, or at least lessened.
3) Smile.  Says it all.  I remind myself to smile often.  I look better when I smile!
4) Listen to uplifting music or talks. Putting positive 'things' in my mind fills it with good, happy thoughts and messages instead of the disappointments I may be feeling.  Play a video that is happy and listen to light, happy and inspiring music.

5) Focus on my talents.  Work on a project.  I love to create and make things newer and more lovely.  When I work on a hobby or talent, I feel great and accomplished and my disappointments are pushed away to the background and my talents and hobbies, things I love to do, are pushed to the forefront!  When I play the piano, I always am uplifted and in a better mood.  Singing makes me smile and be happy too.  A song is like a prayer of the heart spoken up to heaven.  Uplifting to my soul.
6) Give.   When I give of my time, talents, energy and love I feel good inside and it shows on the outside as well.  
7) Work.  Work hard and smart.  Get things done.  When I get things organized and manageable, I feel accomplished instead of disappointed.  Work my plan, set goals and plan to work.
8) Talk with a close family member.  When I talk to one of my kids on facetime or on the phone, I always feel better and do not focus on any of the disappointing things that may have happened that day.  I love my family and I have many family members to talk to.  I feel their love when we talk and share our day and lives with each other.
9) Read scriptures or good, uplifting inspirational books.  I can learn from the experiences of others when I read books that have stories of triumph and victory.  In good books I can find victory for good, triumph in overcoming obstacles to live a better life.  Reading books and listening to audio books helps me to learn how to deal with disappointments with dignity.
10) Love others for who they are.  I should never want to take away anyone's choice and force them to see things my way.  Everyone has the right to choose the way they want to live and it is my 'job' in life to not want to or have the desire to force others to see everything my way.  Love others no matter what they decide to do in their life.  This does not mean I should hang out with or spend time with people who are not on the same path as I am on as far as my goals are concerned, but that I can and should love others no matter what choices they make.  We can find common ground and enjoy our differences, or move on and make friends who are like minded and help us to grow and reach our goals.
11) Spend time with my husband.  My husband is the love of my life.  I look up to him, admire him, respect him and cherish our time together.  I always enjoy his company.  We have a good marriage and have raised 5 wonderful kids who we have a good relationship with as they are growing into adults.  I love to take walks, watch movies, go on drives, work side by side, and do lots of things with my husband.  He helps me feel happy and loved.  We are companions and I am so blessed to have him and he is blessed to have me.
12) Remember that Jesus Christ loves me and I am of great worth.  I am a daughter of God, a woman with a divine destiny and I strive to fulfill that calling of daughter, sister, wife, and mother to the best of my ability.  I cannot do anything alone.  I need my Heavenly Father and His love and guidance.  I know that God sent His Son Jesus Christ to this earth to be an example, to live and to give His life for all of mankind, for me.  He paid for all of my sins and took upon himself my heartaches and worries.  I must trust that God has a plan for me and that through His Son I can be made perfect someday and join with them and my family in an Eternal Life, if I strive to live according to His laws and love.


I have a lovely life, but I do experience disappointments now and then.  It is a human experience and I'm learning to deal and grow and move on.  I should never expect to never be disappointed in my life.  I am one, only one, woman, but I am one and I can be a positive influence for good to those who love me and want to be with me.

You can do anything... if you...

I have to write.  I have to write down what's going on or I'll explode.  I don't know if anyone will read this, and that part really isn't important because writing for me is like therapy.. getting thoughts and feelings out there instead of pent up inside and me not knowing what to do with them.
I am a strong person.  I am 53 years old and I have raised 5 kids, 2 of those children came to me at one time.  I survived and thrived.  I LOVE my children and the memories I have of raising them.  I was probably more of a pushover than I should have been, but all in all, they all turned out great.  My husband helped raise our family - he was very involved with decisions and the direction our parenting went.  He knew a lot and I don't even know where he learned it from.  He is a valiant son of God, striving to keep the commandments.
But this isn't really what I want to write about today.
I think I'm going to take the 365 blog challenge.. blog every day for a YEAR!  Why?  I don't really know.. because I want to see if I can set a huge goal and accomplish it.  I have done many things in my life and I find myself now wanting to improve and learn and stretch myself to do more.  I want to help others, be a positive influence for good, stay close to my family, children and grandchildren and love and help my brother and sisters all I can.  I have held many responsible church callings in my life and have learned a lot about leadership and delegating and getting things done.  In fact, my activity in my church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Later-Day Saints has helped me become more than I would be if I wasn't active or attending.   My religion and what I believe is a whole nother blog post though,
I was thinkking while I drove home this morning after taking my 24 year old son to his workplace (my car is in the shop and that's a whole nother blog post!) and I thought of that famous saying "You can do anything if you put your mind to it".  I do not know who to credit that quote to, but I was thinking about it and when I heard it as a teen, I thought that if you 'thought' hard enough, you could accomplish your goals, do anything you wanted to do.  Well, that doesn't work.  You can't just think hard about something and accomplish a goal, any goal.  What I've learned over the past few years, is that when you want something bad enough and you change your thinking and believe that anything is possible, with the right kind of work behind it, you CAN do anything.  But it takes work!  It takes a process.  It takes learning what works for you and then doing that process and not just setting a goal and sitting there thinking hard about it and hoping it will come to pass.  Often we cannot change circumstances around us.  We can't change the weather. We can't change the 'economy'.  We can't change other people's choices.  We can't change people to do what we think they should do. We can't control actions of others that affect our lives.  What we CAN do is change the way we look at our circumstances.  We can change the way we think, feel, and act.  We can choose to have a good attitude.  We can choose to work hard on ourselves to improve so we can reach our goals for ourselves.  We can become the best person we can be, with hard work and good ethics.

You can do anything if you put your mind to it is true... but it takes action..  Your mind comes up with an action plan and you work that plan over and over and over again until you see the results you want.  If you don't like the results you are getting, make adjustments, look at yourself and work on being your best.  These are all directed towards ME by the way.  Replace the 'we' with 'I' and it's all for me.  I need to change and work and grow for my dreams and vision and goals to come to pass.  
I have a goal to get up earlier in the morning and listen to uplifting personal development talks or read good books for 15 minutes every morning.   I know this will start my day on a positive note and get me off thinking the right way about me, my life, my circumstances, and my relationships.
So, I am declaring that I'm getting out of bed, that's out of bed and not looking at facebook on my phone, which is what usually happens for about 20 minutes before I get out of bed, at exactly 6:30am from now on.  I'm doing it.  I've written it so I'm doing it.    I'll do Personal Development for 15 minutes and after I've mastered this new habit, I'll add another activity to my morning routine, and so on for my day.  I need to develop structure and good habits for my business, social, intellectual and spiritual growth.
Ok.. First blog of 365 started.  I'll try to post photos to go with the posts.

Women, you are all Beautiful!

Believe it and you will be even more beautiful.  What is the definition of beauty?  You get to choose, you choose what is beautiful to you.  Be your own kind of beautiful and own it, live it, breathe it!  If you are dissatisfied, change something.  Smile more!  Be happy inside and out and show that beauty with your radiant smile and attitude of kindness towards everyone.  

I found some cousins, family members who I've lost touch with for over 30 years, found them on facebook.  It makes me happy!  They are beautiful, beautiful women.  I hope we can get together, stay in touch and that in some small way I can build them up and we can encourage and love each other as family and friends.  I have a huge family.  My mother has 7 siblings and my dad has 7 as well and my parents are 78 years old.  All of my aunts and uncles have large families so I have a lot of cousins and I'm even getting to find first cousins once removed, my cousin's children.  Social media is great for reconnecting and feeling like a family get together, like when we were kids.  

Every woman has something wonderful to offer others.  Give to those who love and appreciate you and give to those who need a lift.  Give a smile, a friendly hello or a helping hand.  

Believe that you are beautiful and you will be able to do amazing things.  Beautiful means so many different things, not just surface beauty on the outside.  The most wonderful women are those who love and serve and help others as part of their very being.  They uplift and share, communicate and teach, build others and don't put themselves first.  Me time is great, but as we give and build others, we have so much more beautiful substance to share.

Wake up!

Rise and shine, it's wake up time!  I love my Herbalife Herbal Tea Concentrate in the mornings!  This is a special mug I purchased on our recent cruise to Catalina Island... love the mug.  It contains Herbalife Mango Aloe Concentrate (just a few drops), Hot water, Herbal Concentrate Cinnamon Tea, and Herbalife H30 (a powdered drink mix for great hydration and very little sugar.  I used it for a sweetner).  So yummy and I'm ready for my day!  I'm off to do my Zumba class at my church this morning for about a dozen ladies.  Have to have my energy up so down it goes.  I had a chocolate Herbalife 24 Sport Formula 1 shake this morning and my healthy tablets so I'm REAADY!  Love how I get to start my day every day.  Feeling great and knowing I'm giving my body the best nutrition ever.  Easy, quick and nutritious every single day.  Happy Day to everyone!  Enjoy and look for the blessings and the GOOD all around us.  Be kind and give kindness to all you meet.  

Herbalife Sample program

I am excited to share this awesome Three day trial pack to those who want to make a change and aren't sure if they will enjoy using Herbalife as their plan.  It's easy and effective.  Purchasing the plan is inexpensive!  You get 6 shakes for meal replacements, so three days worth of meal replacement shakes, 2 each day.  You also get a packet of tablets called Total Control - one of my most very favorite products.  TC gives you energy, boosts metabolism, burns fat, promotes inch loss, and just makes you feel great!  No sleepy mornings or afternoons with this tablet!  You get 6 tablets so you can take 2 of them for 3 days.  I contact you and coach you through all 3 of your trial pack days.  It's my job to be sure you are using the products correctly and stay on task.  I follow up with your weight and inches and after three days, if we are a good fit for each other, you can jump on a full blown program for your specific weight loss needs and goals.  It takes time and consistency, but I'll tell you, after just three days, you'll feel the difference and see the difference on the scale and in the measuring tape.  If you'd like to have me as your personal wellness coach, I'm happy to work with you.  It is my passion to help others who are ready to stop the weight gain and low energy and get the best results from their workouts as possible through Herbalife Nutrition, nutrition for a healthy life.  It isn't a scary thing.  It doesn't take much time.  It is not expensive.  You eat food anyway so purchasing Herbalife is like groceries, healthy, nutritious groceries that deliver fantastic weight and inch loss.  If you need to gain weight, I have a program for that.  If you want better results from your workouts, I have a plan for that.  If you just feel sick and tired all the time, I have a plan for that.  Herbalife is for every body!  To be clear, Herbalife products are not intended to prevent, cure, diagnose or treat disease, but when you give your body great nutrition, it CAN do amazing things and FEEL great!  I hope to hear from YOU soon.  Who's ready to receive my help and attention?   

 This is true, so consistency and commitment with yourself and with me, your coach, is key.  YOU are worth every bit of effort.  Call Alaina 702-332-7079  alainamun@hotmail.com

Fun Business.

Herbalife is the funnest business EVER!  This is us at a 20's party!  There was a full spread of food, live music and tables and lots and lots of Herbalife Distributors who qualified for this special event.  We had so much fun!  Who wouldn't want to go to a fun dress up party?  Herbalife knows how to throw the BEST parties EVER!  Join us and start your amazing journey in this business of helping others to get healthy and fit.  Earn extra $$ around what you are already doing right now.  We can get you started and plug you in to the methods that work and invite you to all the inside trainings available.  So many training opportunities, you decide where you want to go with this business.  All very exciting!  We love Herbalife and consume the products every day and love sharing the opportunity and health benefits with others.  Call me for your phone interview or email job introduction.  No better time!   775-537-4605 Coach Alaina